At this time…
It took one bad breakup in college for me to be on the disappointed side of the following lesson.
It took one more breakup in college for me to realize I was then the one doing the misleading.
If you are not interested in something/someone and you know you aren’t, do not soften the blow with “right now” or “at this time.”
Examples -
What you say:
“I just don’t have a place for this relationship in my life right now.”
What they may hear:
“Let’s talk again in 3 months/after summer break/when you get back from your trip and see if we can work this out.”
What you say:
“I’m not interested in that widget/whatsit at this time.”
What they may hear:
“Great, I’ll call you again in 2 days and try to make the same offer at another time.”
If you know you aren’t interested in something/someone speak up for yourself. (Actually, that’s a great lesson as well. Speak up for yourself! And others! There needs to be more speaking up. \soapbox ). It frees the other person to move on (when they are ready). This works for relationships AND sales. The bf/gf/etc can move on emotionally etc., and the sales person doesn’t have to waste your time nor their time calling someone who is really not interested.
